If his girlfriend is frequently critical toward him or if she tries to isolate him from his family, friends and hobbies, your son might be in an unhealthy relationship, according to Kids Health, a child development site, and you'll need to intervene.Arrange a time to calmly discuss your concerns about your daughter's boyfriend.
While parents might want to boot their child's unimpressive boyfriend to the curb, meddling in a child's relationship rarely leads to a positive outcome for anyone. I told her my door is open if she needs me and I love her and that this decision is the hardest one I have ever had to make. She left on good terms and has indicated she will be living on campus in the fall which is a blessing because she was apprehensive to do so before. sometimes, when you apply pressure people react badly. I told her during the last breakup that if she was to return to him, she would have to move out. This is he first real relationship at least in her mind. I feel so guilty about asking her to move out (she went to stay with a friend) but I don't see any other way. Her father is an abusive alcoholic and is not really there for her. I am so sad that she doesn't see what a loser he is and how he is using her for money, sex and to stroke his weak ego. being older and experienced you can see the red flags, you can even see what's going to happen....."this guy is going to break my daugther's heart".I understand the stress and I know I wouldn't have been able to tell either of them to leave. The worst part about this is I can't remember ever in my life being like my daughter was... All you can do is let her know you love her, and she deserves better, but tell her she needs to find that out on her own. I left home at 19 got pregnant at 21 and lived with my abuser, her father, for 12 years.My daughter just graduated last June, we were so proud of her. Her boyfriend has an abusive father in another state and a drug addict mother who just got out of prison, he has been living with grandparents. Anyway, we said hell no he cant live with us, so my daughter basically ran away with him for the night which they spent behind a church. Last year he grades suffered she almost got suspended from university as she was so obsessed with him spending time with him and so forth. my mom listened to my story, but when it was all over she would say "i m not going to say i told you so"!